It’s been a month since 2020 began and it’s time for a check in on our New Year’s resolutions. I am someone who sets multiple resolutions each new year—some big and personal and others small. One of my smaller New Year's resolutions was to make toasts at dinner parties. I wanted to start instigating this more traditional dinner party behavior as a means to share and celebrate with the people I love. Proposing a toast will also help me become more comfortable being vulnerable in groups and will create bonding memories. So far, though, I’ve only given one toast and I’ve had way more than one opportunity to act on my resolution. In my case and I’m sure many others, “failed” resolutions or resolutions that have not been kept can result in immense anxiety and make us feel downtrodden. However, one month into a new calendar year is not “too late,” to restart. It’s important to note that starting small is great. Sometimes, New Year’s resolutions can spin into larger goals that feel unattainable without eliciting a full lifestyle change. This is where the goal setting methodology SMART comes in to play: specific, measurable, achievable, relevant and time-bound. Doing this one-month check-in reminds me that I will need to make my goal more specific. For example, rephrasing “I want to give toasts,” to “I will give a toast after our meal is served every time I go out to dinner with friends or family.” So, if you’re also struggling to stick to your resolution, try and adjust your intentions and goals using SMART to ensure that you’re setting yourself up for as much success as possible. As Lynn Bufka, PhD, reminds us, “it is not the extent of the change that matters, but rather the act of recognizing that lifestyle change is important and working toward it, one step at a time.” It’s not a time to beat yourself up, but rather to check in, re-evaluate and get back after it!